Guest blog by Jack Walton: a Himalayan weather game…

Unlike many connected people that will read this blog via social media I know Jack in real life! I’m incredibly fortunate to call him a close friend as well as a colleague. The beauty of having someone that you speak to every couple of days is that we have our own ‘peer learning community’ to discuss youth development, coaching and new podcasts as well as more random topics like Eddie Stobart and quantum cosmology! This is a great tale of what to do in order to meet the needs of the kids in front of you. Strap in and enjoy the story!

The Day of Himalayan Weather

By Jack Walton

Nick kindly asked me to break my blogging duck and write something that’s happened in my coaching that has made me smile. I will – but I’ll also stress that having the special opportunity work with so many committed and inspiring grassroots coaches makes me smile on a daily basis.

But first I’m going to break the rules and write about something that makes me sad. (Some) Adult attitudes in youth sport. That is when adults allow, and sometimes encourage, score lines to get out of control. To become demoralising. To lose a potential learning experience for all, sometimes down to ego. Sometimes down to the constraints of a league rule book or fixture list. Whatever. Nobody learns much from a 12-0.

The division the U12 team currently I coach is, sadly, no different. Due to a city saturated with so many different leagues, the difference in goal difference is a clear reminder of how uncompetitive some games can be at times. Ours is no different; 124 goals difference (+53 to -71) between top and bottom (12th)… after just 14 games. To put this into context, the Premier League, often cited as the most competitive league in Europe, after 14 games this season had a difference of goal difference differential of just 31 goals between top (Man City +16) and bottom (Aston Villa -15). I do realise that there is rarely much need to compare grassroots and professional football and that is where any comparisons will end.

Game day

The reason for the sombre start is because several weeks back we played bottom of the league. A team who haven’t picked up a point in two seasons and last year finished with over -100 goal difference from just 22 games. It’s a shame the trophies weren’t given out for bravery, resilience and perseverance as these boys, their coach and parents would’ve swept up. 

Saturday morning: 10.00am.

Rain: torrential

Wind: fierce

Wind chill: surely below freezing!

Conditions summary: Himalayan!!

So Danny (my co-coach) and I decided to do something a little different this particular game.  We decided to take on convention, to do what was right for the players and not necessarily what the rules said. 

It started when we noticed during the warm up that the other team (let’s call them Resilience FC) didn’t have enough players. We had 11 (for a 9v9 game) so we suggested our ideas to, and got agreement from, the boys and gave the Resilience coach two of our players for the first half. The plan would be to swap them with two others for the second (they play in red and fortunately we had bibs… in the same shade of red!).

So the game started our 9 v their 10. 

Start of the game

After a few minutes I noticed a boy in full red kit stood shivering on the side line next to the Resilience coach so I ran over.

‘What’s he doing stood there? Is he injured?’

‘No. He’s just turned up.’ 

‘Well don’t leave him stood here. He’ll freeze! Get him on.’

‘Are you sure? I didn’t want to assume.’

‘Of course.’ 

And so the first half carried on 9 v 11. It was closer than our 4-0 advantage suggested when the referee blew his whistle for half time but Danny and I knew that we would have to intervene otherwise the likelihood would potentially be double figures in our favour. And nobody would have learned much. 

The half-time debate

As half time arrived two more of our players turned up late (they had been representing their school at other sports). So we consulted Harry (captain for the day) who we later had to apologise to as the usual responsibility of picking the team and leading the team talk that comes with our armband had gone out of the window on this strange, and soon to get stranger, morning of grassroots football! Harry and the rest of the team agreed that it would benefit everyone if we tried to even the game up.

So we took the two red bibs off the boys who had stepped in for Resilience FC, took one more out of the bag, and gave them to our three more ‘effective’ players and sent them all on for the second half. Which was now starting 10 v 12!

The storm was coming!

Within five minutes it was 4-2. The sideline was still relatively calm. The storm was coming. 

Then 4-3.

At this point we had to reassure one or two of the anxious parents what we had done and why. 

The game now flowed from end to end in almost perfect balance. Creative play forced by the tight areas (given there were four more players on the pitch than the rules state there should be), last ditch tackles, great saves. The players didn’t notice the cold due to the excitement of the match. Unfortunately us adults on the side line had lost the feeling in our toes by now!

For Danny and I, that second half of 30 minutes was one of our favourite moments of working with these boys for the last three seasons. 

The reality

It was chaotic. It was frantic. It was competitive. It was nip and tuck. But it wasn’t this that pleased us the most. What pleased us the most was something that didn’t happen and something that did that was about to come. 

What didn’t happen that made me smile was that at no point did our boys ask for the ‘effective’ players back. They didn’t moan about what we had done. They didn’t plead to put it back the way it should be. We suggested it and they signed up to it. All in as a collective. Even when the inevitable happened and Resilience FC equalised to make it 4-4. Yes it was tense. But they didn’t ask for the easy way out. They faced the challenge.

What did then happen that made me smile was a last minute penalty to us. Or rather a moment that fell out of it. Captain Harry, in charge of the decision, would have normally selected himself to take it but instead chose another teammate, Josh, to take the penalty. Josh scored. 5-4. Full time.

What a game!

Celebration and devastation in equal measure. You’d have been forgiven for thinking that a league title had been won and lost in that moment. A grassroots replica of Liverpool v Arsenal’s title decider just down the road in 1989? Far from it given the respective league positions.

When Resilience FC’s coach shook our hands at the end of the game he couldn’t have been more thankful – “That’s the most exciting game we’ve ever been involved in”. And many of his team, although having lost the game, came off the pitch beaming that they had played a competitive game rather than the usual continuous loop of kick off, concede, kick off, repeat.

The adult challenge

A major benefit of grassroots sport is learning through appropriate competition. Unfortunately ego’s and rule books can sometimes get in the way of this, which leads thousands of young people to fall out of love with the game and, sadly, drop out. A haemorrhage of unfulfilled potential.  

Yes it was chaotic. Borderline ridiculous at times. But the adults came together and did what we thought was appropriate for the players. We did what we thought those boys would have done if they were a class at school, playing on the fields without any supervision: level things up. Make it exciting. It actually felt like a shame that our boys had won the game, especially in such a manner. But on reflection our words to them at half time were simply – ‘We’ve set you a problem, have a go at solving it.’ And they did.

Finally, back to Harry’s penalty. And the most pleasing moment. After the game we had to ask why he didn’t take it himself. Especially as Resilience FC’s ‘keeper was a close schoolmate.

“He’s seen me take loads of penalties at him. It was better for the team if Josh took it”…

Important note

I recognise that rules are put in place with the best of intentions and are there to be followed. The rules that govern youth football are, in my opinion, far more appropriate now than when I started coaching and indeed started working in football a decade ago. These boys were gobsmacked when they found out that my first game as a 9 year old was right wing in an 11-a-side game on the same pitch that our open age first team would play on later that afternoon! We have made massive strides and our formats and competition pathways, when followed, are more developmentally appropriate than they ever have been.

I’m a strong advocate, for example, of substitutes playing mini games against each other

I’m a strong advocate, for example, of substitutes playing mini games against each other and players playing in the appropriate format. I actually remember an U11 game I was involved with where the subs who were playing 4 v 4 off the side of the pitch with no adult supervision and had to be persuaded to come back on to the ‘real’ match!  

In no way am I advocating that we rip up the books and turn the country into anarchy every weekend. What we did that day was quite unique in my experience. However, this particular week was right in the middle of the winter floods, we hadn’t played in nearly 3 months and the council had just managed to cut a rectangle out of the ankle deep grass we were stood in on the sideline! A sideline so cold that we weren’t prepared to have any of the players stood watching from.

The point I’m trying to make though is that, given the choice of an easy win and sitting on the bench or an uncertain close game that they play in, the kids will take the latter. They are motivated by the excitement of randomness and chance. As administrators and organisers of the game, sometimes us adults need to realise this, listen to those we serve and try to match like with like.


You can see as Jack’s story unfolded that everything was done by considering an important question – what would the children want and what did they need in this situation with the nature of the teams and the Himalayan weather? As adults we have a responsibility to put the needs of the players first, before our own ego or concern of three points and a league table standing.

The league table position is not a reflection of you or the type of coach you are but actions like this story make you the person you are seen to be. One that is nice to the kids.

For more information on Jack, you can follow his Twitter feed here @jackwalton1.

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12 thoughts on “Guest blog by Jack Walton: a Himalayan weather game…

  • April 8, 2016 at 11:42 am

    This is absolutely brilliant. Many a game I have stood and watched and thought why can’t we even the sides up. Subs at the side of the park not getting any game time etc. This just makes so much sense. Sadly I could see some leagues fining teams (or worse) for doing this sort of thing. We should all remember it is the kids game and if everyone agrees then what is the problem?

    However ego’s and jobsworth take over and start saying it can’t be done. Well it can and this proves it.

    • April 10, 2016 at 7:07 pm

      Hi David,

      Thanks for the message. Totally agree, things certainly can be done and we just have to find the appropriate balance between having rules in place and doing what is right for the kids. Definitely have to park those ego’s though!!


    • April 14, 2017 at 11:38 am

      Might be worth just thinking through the consequences of what you propose. So we abandon all the infrastructure put in place by an organised competition? The rules are there to make it a level playing field for all concerned. It’s no good legislating for best practice, that doesn’t need it, you are legislating for worst practice. If you had a competition in which the rules could be abandoned when anyone saw fit, you would quickly have chaos which would benefit nobody.

      I will give you an example:

      I am a league secretary. About 2-3 times every season I receive request to change the time a particular game may kick off (10.30). Both teams, I am assured, are in agreement. The issue could be anything, from a player having to play a school hockey match before he can play, to the team having to go to a carol concert. I explain it to the clubs involved. The rules don’t allow for the KO time to be changed. It is set at the AGM with all the clubs there so it can be discussed (along with rest of the rules for the coming season). If you change the time of KO for one match, you aren’t just setting a precedent that games can be delayed if their best player is at a birthday party, you are setting the precedent that the KO time decided at the agm can be changed ad hoc, and therefore that any other rule can be changed ad hoc. Does that benefit anyone? I then say that the correct way to do it would be to propose, at the agm, a span of time in which games KO, say 10 – 11.

      This then presents problems. The referees secretary would have to have two lists, one for refs who can make 10 o’clock KOs and one for those who can make 11 oclock KOs. Who would decide what time a particular game would KO? The home team? What if the other team couldn’t make either of the extremes? It also leaves the door open for intimidation. Although both teams are supposed to have agreed, I have had managers say to me they didn’t really want to change but they couldn’t say no.

      And then, once you have resolved all these issues, if you can, you can guarantee someone would come up and say ‘can we kick off at 12.00 just this once.

      Unfortunately for people like yourself, you seem to have no idea what goes into organising a football competition. To call us jobsworths is insulting and demeans the many hours unpaid work we put into making these competitions as fair and well organised as we can. Some people seem to think that everyone just turns up on the day of a game.

  • April 9, 2016 at 6:02 am

    I appreciate the sentiment and completely agree but if I’d have tried this with my school team yesterday I don’t think it would have gone down well with the school, parents or players. We had two U12 matches which finished 7-0 & 8-1. I wanted to do something to make it more of a level playing field and have tried introducing conditions on the players before (number of passes, recycle the ball before attacking etc) without much success. Maybe I should have suggested they put one or two subs on so out was 7 v 8-9. Will bear it in mind next time and in my defence, it was the first game I’d seen our team play!

    • April 10, 2016 at 7:09 pm

      Hi Warren,

      The one thing I have found with similar approaches in the past is making sure everyone is totally aware of the philosophy and how you work from the start. That way it isn’t a surprise when you try something they might think is crazy!

      Best wishes,


  • April 9, 2016 at 8:20 am

    That’s a super story. Well done to you, your coach colleagues, players & parents. It’s one of the paradoxes of junior sport that while the result shouldn’t be the focus, players benefit from the experience of contending hard for the result.

    • April 10, 2016 at 7:10 pm

      Absolutely agree, it’s a great story and Jack deserves a lot of credit for taking this approach.

  • April 9, 2016 at 8:25 am

    A great read, I coach/manage the senior first team and the u11s, both team talks and sessions have similarities but adapted to age related and this I feel is the problem when coaches become far to demanding on young players. We all watch professional football on TV and to some adults this is how they should be managing and coaching their kids! My u11s played a friendly and it became obvious to me when the opposition turned up we would win comfortably, we had the bare 9 but they had 10 so I suggested they put the lad on as he looked cold and lonely on side line “it’s alright mate we’ve got to learn somehow” and the coach/players/parents just became increasingly frustrated with each other, I tweaked our formation and positions which helped the score line but it was a diss appointing experience. Ego and fear of failure is a big issue in youth managers and many games result in 90% complaining about ref decisions and 10% actually coaching the kids as they play! After 12 years as coach, manager, chairman of a club with 23 teams I’ve many stories and thankfully most are positive and rewarding of our great game and what it can offer in life skills and pleasure. Regards Ryan Gayler

    • April 10, 2016 at 7:13 pm

      Thanks Ryan and great to hear others taking a similar line. The biggest challenge is the adult ego, not the kids, in youth football. All we can do is keep chipping away to try and change these mindsets and with people like yourself and Jack doing that I’m sure the game will keep progressing.

  • April 9, 2016 at 9:43 am

    Great read! The more I watch my kids’ teams play the more obvious it becomes that the experience and learning that comes from it, are the most important aspects. Looking forward to seeing the next guest blogs!

    • April 10, 2016 at 7:14 pm

      Thanks John, got some great ones to follow!

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